Thursday, February 23, 2006
Just the other day my friend told me she and her husband are discussing their third child. They had always talked about 2, for as long as I have known her, and they have 1 of each so I never expected her to have that discussion.
These are incredibly good friends of ours and we love them greatly. I feel like she just tried to slip that into conversation and didn't know how I would react.
I feel like I handled it well, though the subsequent bout of depression might argue against that. I just didn't know what to say. When she had her second and we were still unsuccessful trying, I was sad that our children might not get to grow up together.
Now that they are discussing their third, and we are on our 4th IVF, it seems I might never even have children for her children to get to know.
She has always been incredibly supportive of our issues, and I certainly don't expect her to hold off on another child until I am ready for her to have one, but I am still shell-shocked.
Why is it all so hard sometimes?